Tomorrow

Tomorrow is the day that Susan takes a giant step towards health.

Life begins again tomorrow, and she's got so very much to live for. Go add your voice and cheer her on as she does it.

We love you Susan.

WFMW - Inflammatory Breast Cancer information

I'm taking advantage of the high traffic WFMW to share this very important post from WhyMommy with as many people as possible. In a way, this is truly my best parenting advice - take care of your own health so that you can stay healthy and stay alive for your children. All the rest is window dressing. Important, yes, but it pales in the face of simply being able to be there.

I've talked before about Inflammatory Breast Cancer, and how my friend in the computer is fighting the fight of her life right now, but this message is so very important that it bears repeating again and again:

YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A LUMP TO HAVE BREAST CANCER.

Did you hear that? You DON'T have to have a lump.

Rather than retyping that old post, I'm going to let WhyMommy's words speak directly to you. She says it better than I ever could, because she's living it. It's not just a warning to her. It's the battle for her life.

We hear a lot about breast cancer these days. One in eight women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetimes, and there are millions living with it in the U.S. today alone. But did you know that there is more than one type of breast cancer?

I didn’t. I thought that breast cancer was all the same. I figured that if I did my monthly breast self-exams, and found no lump, I’d be fine.

Oops. It turns out that you don’t have to have a lump to have breast cancer. Six weeks ago, I went to my OB/GYN because my breast felt funny. It was red, hot, inflamed, and the skin looked…funny. But there was no lump, so I wasn’t worried. I should have been. After a round of antibiotics didn’t clear up the inflammation, my doctor sent me to a breast specialist and did a skin punch biopsy. That test showed that I have inflammatory breast cancer, a very aggressive cancer that can be deadly.

Inflammatory breast cancer is often misdiagnosed as mastitis because many doctors have never seen it before and consider it rare. “Rare” or not, there are over 100,000 women in the U.S. with this cancer right now; only half will survive five years. Please call your OB/GYN if you experience several of the following symptoms in your breast, or any unusual changes: redness, rapid increase in size of one breast, persistent itching of breast or nipple, thickening of breast tissue, stabbing pain, soreness, swelling under the arm, dimpling or ridging (for example, when you take your bra off, the bra marks stay – for a while), flattening or retracting of the nipple, or a texture that looks or feels like an orange (called peau d’orange). Ask if your GYN is familiar with inflammatory breast cancer, and tell her that you’re concerned and want to come in to rule it out.

There is more than one kind of breast cancer. Inflammatory breast cancer is the most aggressive form of breast cancer out there, and early detection is critical. It’s not usually detected by mammogram. It does not usually present with a lump. It may be overlooked with all of the changes that our breasts undergo during the years when we’re pregnant and/or nursing our little ones. It’s important not to miss this one.

Inflammatory breast cancer is detected by women and their doctors who notice a change in one of their breasts. If you notice a change, call your doctor today. Tell her about it. Tell her that you have a friend with this disease, and it’s trying to kill her. Now you know what I wish I had known before six weeks ago.

You don’t have to have a lump to have breast cancer.

P.S. Feel free to steal this post too. I’d be happy for anyone in the blogosphere to take it and put it on their site, no questions asked. Dress it up, dress it down, let it run around the place barefoot. I don’t care. But I want the word to get out. I don’t want another young mom, or old man, or anyone in between, to have to stare at this thing on their chest and wonder, is it mastitis? Is it a rash? Am I overreacting? This cancer moves FAST, and early detection and treatment is critical for survival.

From Robin again:

Everyone who reads this, please, go do your monthly breast self-exams. Don't just look for a lump. IBC is NOT characterized by a lump. Please go right now and read these descriptions of the symptoms of regular breast cancer and inflammatory breast cancer, and if you find anything questionable, please, PLEASE, go see your doctor. Knowledge is power and early detection is critical.

It's a bird! It's a plane! It's a blimp! No, it's Robin's giant head!

Seriously you guys, I think my overinflated ego is going to cause my head to swell right up and explode - over the past week and a half, I've gotten not one, not two, not three, but FOUR different awards from awesome bloggers I really admire, all saying such lovely things too. What a compliment! Like I said to Jen, with weeks like this I'm going to have to stop picturing myself sitting alone at the unpopular table, and I may need an anchor to keep my head from crashing through the ceiling.
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Shelly from This Eclectic Life gave me a Schmoozer Award. I always knew that I was physically incapable of shutting up, now I've got proof!





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Last week Jen from Never A Dull Moment and Michelle from Scribbit both gave me Rockin' Girl Bloggers, and then to my surprise I found that Janet over at Fond of Snape The Beach had dropped another one on me!


So, without further grandstanding (Down ego! Down!) on my part I'd like to share the love by taking the somewhat unusual step of turning around and giving BOTH of these awards to one individual who really represents the spirit of both to me: WhyMommy. If you don't know WhyMommy, please click on the Team WhyMommy button on my sidebar and go meet someone truly incredible, and lend her some support and some love while you're there. She needs all she can get.


I'm giving her the Schmoozer for the way she has opened up her life, and her fight against her recently discovered Inflammatory Breast Cancer, to everyone in the blogging world, talking openly about her cancer and where it is taking her so that other women will learn from her story. I know this openness is going to save lives out there. Someone is going to go get something suspicious checked, someone else is going to find strength to keep going when theirs ebbs, she is going to save lives.

On the other side of the spectrum, I'm giving her the Rockin' Girl Blogger award for the way she is working so hard to keep her family her focus, not her disease. Just a few days after receiving her first chemotherapy treatment she is focused not on the next one but on the playdate she plans to attend on Tuesday.

WhyMommy embodies everything I hope I could be in the face of great adversity. She truly is a rockin' girl.

All of you that write blogs, that comment on them, that just read them - you're all rockin' in your own individual ways, with your own strengths and joys. How wonderful it would be if you could just take a minute to go lend some of that strength and joy to one of our own who could really use it right now. Leave her a comment, or just keep a good thought in your heart. We can't stop this terrible disease, but together we can try to make it a little bit easier to bear.

No retreat no surrender

Those words from an old Bruce Springsteen song embody the unbelievable strength of spirit being shown by WhyMommy, a momblogger extraordinaire who's now facing the fight of her life, for her life.

WhyMommy is living the nightmare that we all fear. The nightmare that is breast cancer. Inflammatory Breast Cancer. Yet where many, including me, would probably be curled up in a ball on the floor, she is fighting back, refusing to give in to fear or despair, determined to kick this thing in its ass and get back to the business of "just" raising her two beautiful babies, 2 year old Widget and 5-month old Little Bear.

WhyMommy needs our support to help her fight, to lend her our strength on days when hers might flag and to lift her up even higher on her stronger days. To constantly say that YES, she WILL beat this thing.

You've got my support WhyMommy, in spades. Your strength is both humbling and an inspiration. I want to add though, that if you do feel the need sometimes to let that facade crack, then be gentle with yourself and give yourself permission to do that too. You be as strong as you need to be to win this fight, but if you sometimes want to stop being strong for a few minutes and instead let others do the heavy lifting for you, we'll be right here for that too, giving you strong shoulders to lean on until you're ready to charge forward again.

If you too would like to join the Wall of Support around WhyMommy, please visit Canape's website or e-mail her at (canapesun AT yahoo DOT com) for the code for the Team WhyMommy button.

And to everyone who reads this, please, go visit WhyMommy and let her know that you're pulling for her. And then, go home and do your monthly breast self-exams. Don't just look for a lump. IBC is NOT characterized by a lump. Please go right now and read these descriptions of the symptoms of regular breast cancer and inflammatory breast cancer, and if you find anything questionable, please, PLEASE, go see your doctor. Knowledge is power and early detection is critical.